Entering a relationship is filled with innumerable exciting and exciting moments. The first few days, you might find yourself in a rut.
How to Renew Your Wedding Vows
Turns out, it takes real passion, planning and organization.
If you think it’s simple to renew your wedding vows a decade later, believe us: It’s not. But it is worth the effort. And it’s as simple as these 10 rules:
1. Know the date.
If the date isn’t set, check with your officiant or best man as there’s a chance you could miss out on either, especially if your wedding was all about the kids (many couples of course have kids, some with long marriages, but at least you know what the big day looked like the first time around).
2. Have both sides sign off on the date.
The bride and groom and their respective families need to either agree or at least understand, okay?
3. Set clear boundaries.
Find out how much you’re willing to spend on the vow renewal, and just how it’s going to be communicated.
4. Pay attention to the details.
Looking back on the big day, it’s easy to forget that you once decided you weren’t going to have any photos of you holding hands, kissing, or holding hands, OK? And by the way, the wedding anniversary you usually use to celebrate a relationship together is usually seven years before you ever met. Make sure you and your spouse-to-be are always thinking about each other for a decade.
5. Research the symbol or symbol of your vows.
The couple that used a child to represent their love for each other can’t possibly have experienced any more real love for each other in the time following the big day, could they? If you could only believe it once, why not use it in the vows of your 10th anniversary as well? It can represent what you want to keep your relationship authentic. A child? A child of a military couple? That could mean anything.
6. Look for reflection.
Maybe the couple is realizing after 10 years together that there’s a lot more to being together than that. Maybe they’re starting to really talk about their expectations of each other, for future generations. The key is to stop and take note of what you find. Look for some of these: Have you ever wanted to sit down at the kitchen table and plan what you’re going to do with your marriage at 40? Where’s the passion? Things that have shifted over time? Which things have stayed? If you’re able to have an honest look at how your vows relate to your lives, you’ll know what to prioritize for a long, happy, and indeed wild, 10th anniversary.
7. Get into the action.
If you’re planning your vow renewal ceremony, you’re certainly not in the quiet stages of contemplation. It’s time to get busy creating a vision board, managing the wedding website, or organizing photos from your original wedding. It takes all of your energy to plan your big day, so it’s crucial to find ways to mentally prepare yourself to become so much more excited for your vows. Whether you prefer the 1950s, newer or vintage themes, be sure to incorporate ideas into your vision board to make your dream day come true.
8. Keep the details as simple as possible.
Keep everything in perspective. What really matters most? Are you putting everything into an altar that already has walls to itself or does it need to be elevated on a pedestal? You could certainly also decorate the ground floor of your house with a bouquet of centerpieces, but remembering you changed out of a wedding dress at the end of the night can create complications for the vow renewal. Trying to sneak everyone into the hotel ballroom when it’s a humid-beyond-reason Chicago summer can make things a bit messy.
9. Have fun.
How do you celebrate your 10th anniversary? It’s not a boring, flowery affair. Take that as your inspiration. Make sure to capture your memories, even if they’re only of small things. You want your love to look back and laugh at the wrong jokes you made 10 years ago!
10. Get some momentum going.
You don’t have to do everything at once, but celebrate the remaining 10 years of your marriage by planning a small wedding a year after you’ve renewed your vows. How about a small affair in your front yard to celebrate the last ten years together? I guarantee there are things that are small, insignificant, and fun that could stand to add to your anniversary celebrations.